Happy summer!
We had a lovely weekend of Mexican food, relaxation, and celebrating Em’s dad at Brooklyn Brewery.
I think it’s kinda funny that we eat Mexican food so much since leaving Dallas – it’s obviously not as good as it is in Texas, but you can never go wrong with tequila and guac.
As you may have seen on Instagram stories, Emerson had a big sleep regression/mental leap and was skipping naps, scared to be in her crib alone, waking up at night, refusing to go to child watch at the gym, and being super clingy/not allowing Matt to take care of her. Her last canine popped through at the beginning of this two week period, so maybe that had something to do with it? The canines have been the most painful of all the teeth it seems. She then started having gross poop four times a day, so I’m wondering if she was just sick.
I’ve been super consistent with her schedule and providing lots of extra cuddles and reassurance, and now she’s slowly starting to like the gym again. I’m still not really sure what caused it, but she seems to be feeling better and is back to her old sleep patterns! Thank goodness! Matt has been traveling for work the past two weeks, and I thought I might go crazy without a breather to take a shower. I’ve been tired, and I’m finding this season of parenthood more frustrating than having a newborn (can’t say the parents with toddlers didn’t warn me!). My body has been feeling very run-down, so I’ve been taking a break from high intensity exercise and it feels nice.
The weather has been amazing and we’ve been outside at the park almost every day. Emerson seems to have a new-found physical confidence as she’s able to climb the stairs more independently and is really into the slide. And she randomly taught herself how to ride a scooter? Her physical growth has definitely led to more accidents, as she’s fallen off a chair, cut herself on something in the laundry closet, and has been trying to jump on the couch.
Even though we’ve been out and about a lot and I’m used to being here now, with Matt gone, it’s felt lonely (I’ve always heard that about New York). I’ve met quite a few people, but I think only two moms who stay home full time (I can see why – my budget is not going well at all!). There just aren’t a lot of people around during the week. But Matt’s travel is almost finished (for now) and we’re heading to the beach for a week with my family soon, so that will be a nice change of pace. And I’m so excited that Emerson will be old enough to really enjoy playing in the sand and the water this year.
I hope this post hasn’t come off as complaining – there’s always a fine line between being honest and real about life and coming across as ungrateful. I’m cherishing this special time at home with Emerson, but it does have it’s challenges.
I’m off to sample the banana bread that just came out of the oven and savor the last few minutes of nap time. Fingers crossed this executive order goes through today.
Liz
June 20, 2018 at 8:31 pmOh man, I think my son is only a couple weeks younger than Emerson, and in the last week or so, his personality has done a 180. It’s been pretty unpleasant. He still sleeps alright (KNOCK ON WOOD), but he is insanely clingy, weird when we go out in public (will just start melting down randomly when he never used to do that unless there was at least an obvious reason, and freaking out if I walk one foot away from him when we’re at a playdate or something), purposely doing the opposite of what I tell him to do constantly, and saying ‘no’ to literally anything I say to him. It’s now his favorite word. I keep thinking, where did my sweet guy go?! All this to say, I relate, and hopefully we will get a reprieve soon (before the terrible twos kick in?? Ugh). It’s even harder when you’re a SAHM and get no break from the madness.
Lara
June 21, 2018 at 8:20 amI very much enjoy reading your posts. My daughter is 3 months younger than yours is, so it’s a nice foreshadowing about what’s to come! I can’t imagine how difficult it must be to be a SAHM especially in a place like NY and with a husband who travels a lot. I think with parenting, everything has challenges, staying home, working, it’s not easy, but it’s the best and it’s clear you see that!
Mom
June 22, 2018 at 7:47 amMotherhood is hard! You’re doing a great job. And Em has spunk, which is good and will serve her well in life.
Mic
June 23, 2018 at 4:32 pmGood job being real – staying at home to look after babies is a strange balance of the best thing ever and the hardest thing ever as well! I’ve found especially that the lack of margin in my life makes it feel like this – 5pm comes around and I just keep on trucking! I have a newborn & toddler right now so I’m definitely feeling the pressure of 2 difficult kid stages! I’m assuming + hoping it will balance out when they’re 4 + 6 and playing together while I drink my coffee every morning! (Ha! I can dream right!)
You’re doing a good job – it’s hard to not get that validation from work anymore too I think. What you are doing with Emerson is really important stuff & you are doing a really good job of it.
Laura
June 23, 2018 at 4:36 pmThank you – love hearing your perspective. I can’t imagine doing this with a newborn at this point, but hopefully I am lucky enough to try staying at home with a second!
Mic
June 23, 2018 at 7:28 pmI find the newborn stage really difficult. I complain a lot and accept any help I can get (especially having a 2 year old around as well!) but my little girl just turned 10 weeks on Friday & it feels like I’m getting things figured out a little bit more. It also helps that she is a great baby and has been doing a 8-10 hour stretch of sleep at night pretty routinely for the past week or 2. I put the newborn haze down to hormones + sleep deprivation! I don’t know how Mums of multiples do it!!!
I also meant to say it’s actually good to hear the realIty of living in NYC. I’ve visited a few times (I live in New Zealand) & I totally romanticise the idea of living there being amazing. But you’re not on holiday everyday & the reality is very different I’m sure!
Laura
June 25, 2018 at 7:58 pmI totally romanticized it before we moved here too!